Somewhere along the way, women got lost. Why are we so quick to become the side chic and be proud of it? We bask in the glory of being the other woman. Is this our main relationship goal? We use the excuse that he’s not happy at home, but is that your household to fix? If that were the case he would’ve married you. Most times these men paint a picture of their wives that is very untrue. They tell you how trifling, bitchy, unclean, and inattentive their wives are so that you may feel sorry for them and try to give them what their wife isn’t giving them. It’s all fun & games until you speak with the wife & she thought her home was perfectly fine or you find out you’re not the first side chic he’s had & probably won’t be the last. There’s something very wrong with a woman that thinks its okay to be a sidechic. You can’t step into anyone’s marriage whether it’s raggedy or not. And even if he decides to leave his wife for you, you have to remember that nothing good ever becomes of a tragedy. You can’t wreck something and expect that something to create happiness in your world. It will be torn apart one way or the other!
I get so tired of hearing men preach about how a woman has slept around when his body count is in the 200s. I understand that we as women must govern ourselves accordingly. It was implanted in us to be classy, submit, and keep our legs closed. What about the single woman who just wants to have good, clean fun? It’s acceptable for a single man to penetrate anything with a hole, but for a woman to conquer several male conquests, she’s automatically considered a “hoe” or the word I despise so much a “thot”! So what do we call the promiscuous men??????! Another thing I’m confused about is how a man will walk away from a good woman with a past. We all have a past. We have all done things that we’re not so proud of. That’s what happens when you are a teenager, you rebel, you act out, you “f#ck off”.
How can you judge a woman by her past when you never even knew your father? So what does that make your mother?
Don’t call a woman anything you wouldn’t want a man to call your sister or your mother!
Everyone has the ability to change! Don’t judge people by their pasts, they don’t live there anymore!
We all at one time or another have wanted to be in love. We have wanted to find that one, our soul mate. Then we meet someone, everything seems wonderful. Y’all are getting along, sending cute texts, can’t live without each other, etc.. Then, one of those individual gets caught doing the unthinkable, cheating. That cheating has you sitting around wondering how or why that person could ever do such a thing to you. It has you doubting yourself, feeling insecure, hurting, and most of all you are feeling stupid. So, why would this person do this to you after you’ve given them your all, shown them the moon & the stars, and laid it all on the line? Its quite simple. Because they wanted to. You can’t “make a mistake” & cheat & if you accept that lame excuse, you should be cheated on! I know we all make mistakes but don’t sit around & be dogged because you’re afraid of being alone. Its not worth your time. I’ve seen men & women stay in the most miserable, toxic relationships for years, just to say they have someone or not have to sleep alone most nights. Its definitely our prerogative to do as we please, but how many years of your life will you spend crying over STDs, him or her not coming home, or them disrespecting you in front of the kids? What are we teaching our kids? We’re teaching them to settle for that piece of a relationship because we’re too lazy to date, put his or her sorry butt out, or move on. Our children are watching & absorbing more than we think, the least we can do is teach them not to take any shit, no matter what form it comes in.
Do we really love unconditionally? I mean honestly folks… If his bank account isn’t overflowing with funds or she refuses to perform fellatio, do we really love them without condition? Maybe 40 years ago, but these days, we’re always attempting to change something about the person we’re involved with. Back in the day, when our men were cheating on the other side of town with some “Jezebel”, we shook it off & hoped he’d ended it, but we did stick by our man. I’m not saying it’s the right thing to do, but all was forgiven & that lovely couple stayed married for 50+ years. There is ups & downs in every single relationship, if there isn’t, someone is lying! But are we walking away from a good thing too soon because we are loving with condition? Are we falling in love with an illusion of colors instead of true colors? Because it seems as if once the “cupcake” phase of the relationship ends, that’s when all hell begins. No I’m not implying you take him or her back after they have committed the ultimate relationship crime (cheating), but I am saying I’ve witnessed people walk away from great relationships over petty arguments, money, little white lies, etc. We don’t talk or compromise anymore, we’re just ready to cut that person off at the first sign of hardship within the relationship. There is no way we can maintain a healthy, committed relationship without issues, compromise, & unconditional love. Accept people for exactly who they are because I guarantee you there’s someone out there willing to love you for you, flaws & all. Unconditionally!
We all hope our sons will grow up to be great, accomplished men, but in this day & age, that is not the case. Instead of graduating high school & going off to college, they remain in their “hood” and deal drugs, gangbang, etc. Instead of marrying the young women they lie down with, they’re spreading their seed & having 7 kids by 7 different women. They are thousands behind in child support & refuse to seek employment.
Do we as mothers & fathers take responsibility? Have we given up on our sons? No! We can only raise them, what happens after that is their responsibility. The phrase: “it starts at home” has some truth to it. But what do you do when you’ve done all you’ve possibly could? Who do you turn to when you’ve worked multiple jobs, sent them to the best schools, clothed & fed them?
I have no answer. But what I do know is, something has to give. Why are our sons wanting to stay & “represent their hoods”, what has the hood done for them besides drug addiction or a jail sentence?
Why aren’t our sons taking care of their kids? What could possibly be more important than spending that quality time with your children. Money can’t raise children. They tend to attend the clubs more than they visit their children.
What happened to courting a woman? Nowadays, its all about having sex or chasing the woman who has the most ample behind only to find out she has no goals & nothing else to offer. The priorities of our young men are completely off because the goal of courting or dating a woman is supposed to be marriage. If marriage isn’t the ultimate goal, then why are you leading her on?
So-called men, grow up! Make us proud! Do great things! Follow your dreams! Take care of your families!
I am all for the “strong, independent woman” movement, but I think it’s gone a little too far. Some women are turning our men completely off with these attitudes they have no reason possessing. I understand if you’ve been hurt in previous situations or relationships, but can you honestly let your past hurts define the rest of your life? Do you have to wake up bitter or with a chip on your shoulder every single day? The answer is no, and if that behavior continues, you’ll find yourself 57 years old with a house full of feline friends.
Why are you so wrapped up in the fact that he doesn’t have the new pair of overpriced sneakers, a car, or a house? Ladies, humble yourselves because that public assistance apartment & generic pair of Christian Loubitons doesn’t make you a “bad bitch” or whatever you refer to yourselves as nowadays. You attract who you are, so next time a young gentleman approaches you, humble yourself, because the type of behavior this generation’s 14-45 year old girls & women convey is not acceptable, nor is it cute. You’re worried about if he can change oil or cut the yard, but can you cook? He deserves much more than Taco Bell & Ramen Noodles. Learn how to clean the house. There’s no reason your man/husband should come home to an unclean house.
The number one complaint I hear about men is: “he doesn’t have a job”! Do you know his story? Have you asked? Probably not! Because if he’s not buying you & your classless friends drinks, you consider him broke. These men are scarred. They are broken! They are hurt because 30 years ago, we supported our men, we complimented them, we struggled with them, we assisted them in reaching their goals, we trusted them, we VALUED them.
It will not make you a weakling to actually sit down, zip your lips, and let that man take charge.
Bobbi Kristina Brown was found unresponsive in her Georgia home this morning.
Police officers responded to a call made from her home around 10:25 am. Upon arrival, police officers discovered an unresponsive Bobbi. Brown’s husband and friend told officers that they found her in the bathtub. Both individuals tried CPR on her. Police officers stepped in to assist with CPR on Bobbi, until a rescue crew could arrive.
Bobbi has been transported to the North Fulton Hospital. According to TMZ, doctors have stabilized her breathing.
I caught a glimpse of January 29th’s episode of Scandal. Literally, just a glimpse. After the first 20, long drawn-out minutes of watching “Olivia Pope” (Kerry Washington) attempt to escape nothingness, I got bored. It just didn’t live up to the hype in this episode. Maybe Shonda Rhimes was on vacation the week this episode was written, but whatever it was, she shouldn’t let it happen again! Or maybe it’s time to let this scandal die…….
I’ve always wondered what would make a woman let her so-called best friend leave the house looking a bit off. Do you tell your friend if her make-up is wrong? Do you tell her if her outfit doesn’t quite fit? Do you tell her how you truly feel about her no-good man?
These are all questions that come into play when trying to decipher the real friends from the fake friends. Being a true friend consists of always telling your friend the truth no matter how much it hurts or stings, always supporting that friend in their endeavors, and being there as much as you truly can. I think our perception of what friendship is became distorted years and years ago. I know we all want to hear the positive, but what about the negative? Since when does being a real friend constitute you lying through your teeth knowing full well you shouldn’t be. Friends are there to give us that little dose of reality that we all need to be smacked in the face with every now & again. But some of us take the cold, hard truth personal. We should be able to hear that “constructive criticism” and evaluate our actions & situation with the advice given. Am I wrong?
Rapper Lil Wayne is trying to sever ties with his record label. He’s suing Cash Money Records for $51 million after claiming that it bamboozled him for $8 million on a record he delivered last month.
In the federal lawsuit filed Wednesday, the Grammy Award-winning performer asked a Manhattan judge to nullify contracts he has held with the company since November 1998.
Lil Wayne stated in the lawsuit that his relationship with the label has been deteriorating over the last four years, with Cash Money failing to live up to contractual promises regarding monthly accounting statements and the timely payment of profits owed to Lil Wayne.
The lawsuit said the problems worsened since 2012 as Cash Money failed to pay Lil Wayne a 49 percent share of net income derived from the sale of solo recordings by rapper Drake for Lil Wayne’s partial ownership of the Young Money label, despite Drake’s rise as one of the best-selling recording artists in recent years. Nicki Minaj is also signed to the label.
A New York lawyer for Cash Money did not immediately return a message seeking comment. The label was co-founded by Lil Wayne’s mentor, Bryan “Birdman” Williams. A spokeswoman for Birdman and Cash Money did not return a message seeking comment.
A rapper since childhood, Lil Wayne released his first solo album, “Tha Block Is Hot,” in 1999. He lives in Florida now. The Young Money label is based in Miami.
The Cash Money website is promoting the upcoming release of the record Lil Wayne finished last month, “Tha Carter V,” one of the most anticipated records of the past year.
Lil Wayne said last year it was likely to be his last solo album. “Tha Carter IV,” released in 2011, sold nearly 1 million albums the first week of its release.